I didn’t drive for most of the time we lived in San Francisco. MJ drove his 2000 Oldsmobile Alero to work every day, and I’d take it out here and there for the random vet visit or grocery trip when MJ and I weren’t going together. The car is very similar to my old 2000 Pontiac Grand Am, so I was always comfortable with it. I just am not a fan of driving in general, so if I can avoid it? Sign me up!
When we moved to Castro Valley in 2018 I had to swiftly adjust my habits. We live in the village part of the town, so I can walk to get a coffee or pick up lunch, but I do a lot more driving these days. But we bought a Hyundai Santa Fe when I was pregnant with our first, so I didn’t really drive the Alero until one night when I took myself out to a nearby resort to spend a full 24 hours decompressing. It was great. And I found that I bonded with the car in that time.
I also quickly tired of FM radio, so I got a cassette to AUX adapter, which I added an AUX to USB-C adapter to so I could listen to music from my phone on the car speakers. Since then, I’d take it out a couple times a month to go grocery shopping or something else local to keep it running, but ultimately it wasn’t reliable enough to be a daily driver anymore, so MJ wasn’t using it to commute to work. As a coupe, it also wasn’t practical to use with the kids.
A few months ago we had another instance of the poor car sitting in the driveway for a few weeks because I hadn’t taken it out and it fully losing battery charge. That’s when MJ and I had a chat about it. The fact is, it simply didn’t have a place in our current life. As one of MJ’s first cars we had somewhat held on to the hope of fixing it up some day, but ultimately we had to admit we wouldn’t have the time for that, especially with how much work was needed both interior and exterior. In the meantime we’d be paying registration, insurance, and whatever fix-ups along the way. We had to think about letting it go.
The next morning I felt a little sad about saying we should get rid of it. So, in no rush to retire it, I took it for a car wash. After paying for the wash, I went to put the window up and I heard a “clunk” in the door, and the window failed to rise. A component of the window motor had broken and the window was now stuck in the door. I got a refund for the car wash and took it over to our mechanic who gave us a quote with parts and labor to fix it of over $500. It was a perfectly reasonable estimate, but too much to put into a car that we had just effectively decided we weren’t keeping long term. I cleared out enough space in the garage where we had to store it for a few weeks, and ultimately donated it to a local organization that would give proceeds to a non-profit of our choice. MJ took it for a last drive, and then we said goodbye.
We are all pretty sad about it. I wouldn’t say I’ve gotten attached to every car I’ve owned, but MJ has had this car as long as I’ve known him and we all had a special fondness for this one.
But it was immediately clear that a real benefit about having that car was that it was useful was when the Hyundai was in the shop. This way, I’d still have a car I could drive in the meantime. We’d thought about getting a minivan for a while, and this seemed like the right time to finally pull the trigger on it. MJ did a bit of research to confirm we still wanted to go with the Kia Carnival that we had test driven a couple years earlier, and then we decided to buy one for California and one to replace the SUV we keep in Philadelphia. The timing worked out to buy the one for Philly first, so we used a car buying service that would find and manage the purchase of the exact model and specifications we wanted, and also ship in to Pennsylvania. All I had to do was show up at their office to sign the paperwork, and the car joined us a week later during our spring visit to Philly, hooray!
Next up was the one for California, which we went to a dealership ourselves to buy since we didn’t need the added complexity of cross-country shipping. The interior color differs from the one we have in Philly, but otherwise the vans are identical. Fortunately, we like them! It’s already been really useful to be able to pick up furniture or other big things without a full reconfiguration of our Hyundai SUV, including removal of the car seats.
Buying two cars at once felt incredibly decadent, but so is having a vacation home where we keep a car. And these are the family cars we expect to have for the next 8-10 years, so it’s not like we’re over here doing a luxury car refresh every couple of years (indeed, two Kias are the price of one luxury car, hah!). Before coming out to Philly for our summer trip, MJ and I made our way over to AAA to do a bunch of swapping of license plates between cars so we’d be ready to remove the expired temporary plates when we got into town.
The biggest question for me that I’d been mulling over is where my “pleia2” plate would end up. I first got it when I had the Maserati Ghibli a few years back, and it was glorious. Going from that to a minivan? It was emotionally jarring in a way I struggled to come to terms with. I’m 100% in with being a mother, and while I don’t love the cultural implications of moving to the suburbs and buying a minivan, it is a truth about our life now, and there’s no use pretending it’s not.
Someday I’ll put it back on a Maserati.